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What to Do After a Loved One Dies

June 15, 2025

The loss of a loved one is one of life’s most stressful events. Almost ninety percent of people over the age of 16 have experienced grief, but 57% of Americans have experienced a significant loss within the last three years.

Mourning is the natural process someone will go through when a loved one passes away. Though many initially gather with friends and family to share the loss, the mourning process is personal and may last months or years.

Here are some gentle steps to take when processing the loss of a loved one.

Know the Symptoms of Grief

Dealing with death is something most people would rather avoid altogether, but grieving isn’t something to put off. Your grief is likely to be felt physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Allowing yourself to move through your feelings is integral to the process.

Give Yourself Time

Now is the time to take care of yourself. You don’t need to put an expiration date on your grieving. “Some people grieve for years, and while they become more functional as time goes on, they may still get hit out of nowhere with grief-related feelings,” says Dr. Judy Ho, host of the podcast Supercharged Life.

“Grief isn’t linear; it’s more circular. You may feel like you’ve accepted the loss, then something happens months later, and you circle back to denial,” says Ho. However long it takes you to begin feeling better is unique to your situation. So be gentle with yourself as you experience waves of mourning.

Routine is Everything

It is essential to develop and stick to a new routine. Many activities will feel different, and it’s okay to make changes accordingly and try new things. However, sticking to some of what’s normal for you can also be a great comfort. “Grief has a way of rocking our sense of safety, but routine creates stability, which often codes as safety,” says Dr. Anita Robinson, author of The Gift of Grief.

Lean on Your Support System

When a loved one dies, it affects everyone in their circle. “Don’t manage grief alone,” says Melissa Robinson-Brown, a clinical psychologist in New York. “If there were ever a time to lean on family and friends, this would be it.” Talk to those you feel most comfortable with and let them know what you’re experiencing.

While everyone finds their way to cope, it can be valuable to share the loss of someone and grieve together. People should be open and honest with one another and not try to hide their feelings. Because the roles of family members may change, it’s best to communicate with one another moving forward.

Bereavement Groups and Counseling

It may be helpful to join a bereavement support group. Bereavement means the state of having been deprived of something or someone valued, primarily through death. Being around others experiencing the same loss level helps many feel less alone. Hospices, hospitals, and community organizations will all have more information on support groups in your area.

One-on-one counseling can be an essential part of losing a loved one and processing that loss in a healthy way. Death can come as a great shock, and mental health counselors can offer a safe place for you to resolve those emotions. Through hospice, bereavement care is even provided for up to 13 months.

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Dealing with Mental Stress During the Holidays

November 22, 2023

For most people, the best parts of the holidays, extravagant decor, rich foods, gift-giving, and additional time with friends and family, can also be the most stress inducing. While the holidays are thought of as the most wonderful time of the year, it is in fact viewed by many as the most stressful time of the year.

Neverending to-do lists, added expenses, and the desire to achieve a perfect holiday are just a few of the ways that the season brings on an overwhelming amount of stress. Plus, if you have an existing mental health condition, the holidays may accentuate it. “There are a lot of stressors in life without the holiday season,” says event planner Courtney Lutkus. “The holidays can be triggering and make it worse.”

In order to have a more relaxing holiday season, it’s important to choose some strategies ahead of time that will help you combat seasonal stress.

Exercise is Often the Best Medicine

During the holidays, prioritizing regular exercise can mitigate stress before it happens. Whichever exercise you choose, taking the time to move your body will guarantee a healthy dose of holiday cheer.

If you tend to feel restricted during the holidays from being spread too thin both physically and mentally, dance therapist Erica Hornthal recommends what she calls joy workouts. Take a break from the festivities, find an open space, and spend eight minutes moving through six expanding moves, including reaching, swaying, and jumping, that are designed to boost happiness. “Shake your hands, shake your head — kind of like an animal after it gets wet,” she says. “You can make a game out of it if you have kids.”

Alternatively, if you feel the need to slow things down, then yoga might work best for you. Even a fifteen minute session can lower levels of stress and anxiety. With a focus on breathwork and mindfulness, yoga can be especially effective for alleviating the feelings of nonstop commotion that often come with the holidays.

If you find yourself wanting to get away, a walk or run around the neighborhood may be just what you need to reset. You could even plan a “microadventure,” which could be as simple as a bike ride in the dark or a daytime hike at a nearby nature reserve. Viewing things in a new light and admiring your surroundings can create a sense of awe, which has been proven to lower stress levels. Plus, spending time outside, even if it’s just a walk around the block, can lower cortisol levels, blood pressure, and muscle tension.

Schedule Breaks

If you’re having difficulty finding time for yourself during busy days, then reclaiming your mornings might be the best way to fit in a break. “I encourage everyone to develop a daily habit of starting their day with their own voice as the primary driver for how they want to engage the day,” says therapist Chanel Dokun. “This is an easy way to pre-schedule ‘me-time’ amid a busy holiday season where you can check in with your own needs, set your own priorities, and move into your day feeling centered and in control.” Plus, research shows that waking up just one hour earlier lowers an individual’s risk for depression by 23 percent.

In addition to making time for yourself in the mornings, simply saying no to yet another social obligation could help you avoid the burnout that comes from overdoing it. The sheer volume of things to do during the holidays can make it difficult to prioritize what’s most important. Sometimes, taking care of your mental health can be more important than attending yet another event, so give yourself permission to choose your festivities wisely. Not only will saying no to some things ease your stress, but it can also reinforce healthy relationship boundaries, which will leave you feeling empowered rather than burnt out.

Honor Your Routine

With all of the added hustle and bustle, it will be easy to fall out of your usual routine, but sticking to your routine might be the simplest solution to seasonal stress. Dr. David Spiegel, director of the Center on Stress and Health at Stanford University, says that our stress responses are far more flexible when we are resting and nourishing our bodies. “Mitigate stress by taking care of your body first,” says Spiegel. Give your body something to depend on during the holiday rush by getting enough sleep, eating well, and exercising regularly.

Ditch Perfectionism

It would be impossible for every part of the holiday to be perfect, so why place that standard upon yourself? Think about what traditions matter most to you, such as cooking a specific meal for your children or visiting family. When you take the time to think about what matters most, you can either ditch the items that fall down on your to-do list, or you can ask other family members to take some tasks off of your plate.

“You have a lot going on,” reminds psychologist David Rakofsky. “You can’t possibly do it all. Instead of lamenting your ‘losses,’ congratulate yourself on the everyday victories, like leaving the bed, smiling, and putting on pants.”

Whether you’re counting on your travels to go just as planned, finding the perfect gifts, or hosting the event of the season, having an idealized approach can set you up for disappointment. When you let go of your vision for the perfect holiday, you may find that you have far more joy this season, as well as far less stress.

Stick to a Holiday Budget

The best way to manage financial stress is to set a realistic budget. Since nearly 1 in 4 people feel financially burdened by the holidays, there may be no better time to employ a budget than this time of year. “Be realistic when creating a budget by using real prices, not ballpark figures,” says Family and Community Health specialist Joyce Cavanagh. “Don’t forget to include travel, food and entertaining costs in your holiday budget. And remember to jot down what you’ve bought so you don’t lose track of how much you’ve spent.”

Due to inflation, lower-income households may experience more financial stress this year. 29 percent of consumers say they’re stressed about the cost of holiday shopping, and 14 percent feel pressured to spend more than they’re comfortable with. Talking with your loved ones about minimizing holiday spending and gift-giving could take the pressure off of everyone and put the focus back on celebrating with loved ones. “Try managing your anxiety through transparency and planning,” says psychiatrist Dr. Georgia Gaveras. “You may end up being a hero this holiday season if you propose limiting the number of gifts everyone buys.”