What to Do After a Loved One Dies

June 15, 2025

The loss of a loved one is one of life’s most stressful events. Almost ninety percent of people over the age of 16 have experienced grief, but 57% of Americans have experienced a significant loss within the last three years

Mourning is the natural process someone will go through when a loved one passes away. Though many initially gather with friends and family to share the loss, the mourning process is personal and may last months or years.

Here are some gentle steps to take when processing the loss of a loved one. 

Know the Symptoms of Grief

Dealing with death is something most people would rather avoid altogether, but grieving isn’t something to put off. Your grief is likely to be felt physically, emotionally, and psychologically. Allowing yourself to move through your feelings is integral to the process.

Give Yourself Time

Now is the time to take care of yourself. You don’t need to put an expiration date on your grieving. “Some people grieve for years, and while they become more functional as time goes on, they may still get hit out of nowhere with grief-related feelings,” says Dr. Judy Ho, host of the podcast Supercharged Life.

“Grief isn’t linear; it’s more circular. You may feel like you’ve accepted the loss, then something happens months later, and you circle back to denial,” says Ho. However long it takes you to begin feeling better is unique to your situation. So be gentle with yourself as you experience waves of mourning. 

Routine is Everything 

It is essential to develop and stick to a new routine. Many activities will feel different, and it’s okay to make changes accordingly and try new things. However, sticking to some of what’s normal for you can also be a great comfort. “Grief has a way of rocking our sense of safety, but routine creates stability, which often codes as safety,” says Dr. Anita Robinson, author of The Gift of Grief.

Lean on Your Support System

When a loved one dies, it affects everyone in their circle. “Don’t manage grief alone,” says Melissa Robinson-Brown, a clinical psychologist in New York. “If there were ever a time to lean on family and friends, this would be it.” Talk to those you feel most comfortable with and let them know what you’re experiencing. 

While everyone finds their way to cope, it can be valuable to share the loss of someone and grieve together. People should be open and honest with one another and not try to hide their feelings. Because the roles of family members may change, it’s best to communicate with one another moving forward.

Bereavement Groups and Counseling 

It may be helpful to join a bereavement support group. Bereavement means the state of having been deprived of something or someone valued, primarily through death. Being around others experiencing the same loss level helps many feel less alone. Hospices, hospitals, and community organizations will all have more information on support groups in your area.

One-on-one counseling can be an essential part of losing a loved one and processing that loss in a healthy way. Death can come as a great shock, and mental health counselors can offer a safe place for you to resolve those emotions. Through hospice, bereavement care is even provided for up to 13 months.

Insureyouknow.org

Experiencing the loss of a loved one can be a painful process. Focusing on the joy the relationship brought to your life is a great source of solace during the most emotional moments. With Insureyouknow.org, you may store your loved one’s records for safekeeping so that when it’s time to handle the logistics of someone passing, you’ll be up for the task.

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When-I-Die-File

February 2, 2020

Sounds morbid, but it’s actually the kindest thing that you can do for your family. The life insurance plan – while useful, will be tough to access initially. The 401k and 529 accounts set up for the kids and grandkids – will be caught up in legalities for a few months. What the family really needs – right now, is to be able to download your mind and know all those little things. The When-I die file is exactly that…. The “fill in the blank” documents which explain all

We all know we need to remove the clutter, organize the bills, have a will, create the advanced directives for the medical community. It’s overwhelming and seems impersonal. This file goes a little deeper, and adds your personality to the documentation. The who, what, where, when, and why of your decisions. It provides the answers to – “what do you want when you die?”

When-I-Die…

  • These are my financials. You may have money, savings, accounts, investments – or you may not; but how will those close to you really know. The scavenger hunt of locating the treasure may take years for your loved ones, without a quick listing of your financials. Account numbers are great, but at a minimum have a list of the financial institutions that you utilize often. You may be surprised at how many you have.
  • This is why. The decisions listed in your will, advanced-directive, and material possessions are going to be black-and-white, and may leave divisions and heartache when it was unintended. A quick explanation document may assist the family and friends with understanding where your intentions really are. This is why my partner gets the money, and the children get the house. This is why there were 3 savings accounts. This is why I want my funeral in Dallas. The why question from children to parents, and parents to children starts when a child can talk, and continues throughout the lifetime, this gives the opportunity to answer a few of them.        
  • This is how. We cannot read your mind. So when the secret question or the password or the lucky number is requested– it is going to be tough to answer that. Accessing social media, email accounts, the cable/trash/cell phone account is going to be tough if we don’t know what you were using. The this-is-how is a step by step guide of getting into your day to day affairs and allowing communications to continue. An example would be your cell phone – if your immediate family cannot get into your contacts, how will they convey messages to those that may not immediately know of your passing.
  • This is what I didn’t say. The plot line for many movies, books and dreams is a vision of a person who is passed conveying messages of love. There may also be family secrets of a recipe or hidden heirloom or photos in a closet. There is the conversations that didn’t happen about the way birth or death or the estrangement happens. All the things you didn’t get the opportunity to say. This can be created informally in a letter format  – Dear Abby, there’s something I didn’t get to say…. Or more formalized bulleted memo. Here are 10 things….

Your physical file is ready and located in your assigned area, but what able the digital version. As you put together your soft-copy of your when-i-die file, consider uploading all your wishes, reports, documents, and memories onto InsureYouKnow.org. It’s a safe place to store all the information in case your loved ones need to access it remotely – or from your own home. You will have peace of mind that they will be able to find everything they need in an organized way – the way you left it. To learn more about the file – read the Time Magazine article

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