How to Choose a Medical Power of Attorney and Stay Prepared

November 6, 2025

A few years ago, a close friend of mine went through something that completely changed how I look at “being prepared.” Her dad had a stroke while working in the garden. One minute he was watering plants, the next, he was in the hospital, unable to speak. The doctors were asking who could make medical decisions for him, but no one had an answer. Everyone froze.

It was heartbreaking to watch. Her mom was in shock, her siblings were arguing, and everyone was scared. Nobody knew what he would have wanted.

That day taught me something that I’ll never forget. Planning ahead isn’t just about being responsible. It’s an act of love. And that’s exactly what a Medical Power of Attorney is all about.

What a Medical Power of Attorney Really Means

A Medical Power of Attorney (MPOA) sounds like a complicated legal thing, but it’s actually simple. It’s a document that lets you choose someone you trust to make healthcare decisions if you can’t.

That person, your agent, doesn’t suddenly take over your life. They only step in if you can’t speak for yourself. Their role is to protect your wishes and make sure what you want actually happens.

It’s one of those things we tend to put off, but once it’s done, it brings a quiet kind of comfort. You know things will be okay, even if you can’t explain what you want in the moment.

Why It Matters

If you don’t have a Medical Power of Attorney, hospitals usually turn to whoever’s nearby or follow state laws about next of kin. That can work, but it can also cause a lot of tension. In stressful moments, people don’t always think clearly. They guess, they argue, they panic.

Having an MPOA avoids all that. It gives doctors one clear person to speak with and gives your family direction when things feel uncertain. It’s a simple form, but it can prevent a lot of heartache later.

How to Choose the Right Person

Choosing your agent isn’t about who’s closest to you. It’s about who knows you best. The person you trust most doesn’t have to be family. It could be a friend, a sibling, or someone who simply understands you.

Here’s what to think about:

• Who stays calm under pressure?
• Who knows how you feel about medical care and quality of life?
• Who will listen to doctors carefully and ask good questions?
• Who will do what you want, even if others disagree?

Once you decide, talk to them. It doesn’t need to be formal or serious. Maybe just bring it up during a car ride or while cooking dinner. Tell them how you feel about certain treatments or what kind of care you’d want. These honest conversations matter so much more than any form.

Keeping Your Documents in Order

Once your form is signed, keep it somewhere easy to find. In an emergency, no one wants to dig through stacks of paper.

Here’s what to keep together:

1. Your MPOA form (signed and dated).
2. A Living Will or Advance Directive describing your medical preferences.
3. A HIPAA release form so your agent can speak with doctors.
4. Health insurance cards and policy info.
5. Emergency contacts for family and doctors.
6. Photo IDs for you and your agent.

I like to keep mine in a labeled folder at home and another copy saved online. It’s one of those “just in case” things that saves everyone stress later.

Why Digital Storage Helps

Paper gets lost. It gets packed in a box or tossed by accident. That’s why having a digital copy is smart.

A secure site like InsureYouKnow.org makes it easy to upload and store important documents safely. You can label them, share access with your agent, and know that if you ever need them, they’re right there. It’s simple, private, and safe.

It’s not about being tech savvy, it’s about being practical.

Keep It Updated

Life changes. People move, relationships shift, new doctors come into your life. Once a year, take five or ten minutes to check that your MPOA and other forms are still up to date.

It doesn’t take long, but it gives you peace of mind that everything’s current.

A Final Thought

Setting up a Medical Power of Attorney isn’t about expecting bad things to happen. It’s about kindness, for yourself and the people who love you.

Once it’s done, you can stop worrying. You’ll know that, no matter what happens, your family won’t be left guessing. They’ll already know because you cared enough to prepare.

It’s not just a document. It’s peace of mind, and maybe one of the most loving things you can do.

Who is the record keeper?

September 17, 2019

Do I really need to keep this? …yes….Now where should I keep this? In the information age it seems like there is more to keep track of – but when we come down to basics there are still basic documents that we all have and need, and need to be able to find. There is a lot of information online – bank statements, mortgage payments, bills, paystubs – but what happens when your circumstances change or the information system shuts down. Is there a way for you to get what you need – or your family members?

• Weeks. Paper receipts. The grocery store, gas, eating out. These receipts are not necessarily for long term record keeping – but they help when the credit card statement and balancing the checkbook routine comes. According to Experian research – the average U.S. consumer has an average balance of $6,354 on their credit cards. Without the paper receipts to verify transactions – the extra $100-$300 in excess charges or fraud may not be detected. After the monthly verification – the paper receipts can be discarded. Preferably in the shredder.

• Years. The ones that come to mind are the tax returns, mortgage payments and warranties. These are usually in a drawer or stuffed in a cupboard – “somewhere” and may not be accessible in an easy way. The ones that slip the mind and can be difficult to keep track of are the medical bills and plans. Even if you have changed employers, doctors or plans – there is no record of your medical history and payments other than you. Pre-existing conditions or the blood-test that didn’t get sent to the insurance company can come back years later when you interact with the same providers again. Suze Orman has an article on other documents that we should have in our record box.

• Forever – These are the one that we mention on most of our blogs and the things that are, hopefully, in our safe places. Give yourself time to get these together. Your birth certificate (and those of your household), Marriage License(s),(it is key to continue to keep the marriage license of previous marriages even if they have been officially annulled),  the Adoption papers and Death certificates. Wills and Death certificates (of anyone that may be connected to your life and could have influence in your future holdings). To get a copy of most of these documents – you need to make a request at the county where the event occurred. This can be tricky when a person is born or dies in a place other than their usual place of residence. If you are unable to physically go to the county clerk office – there are third-party groups that, for a processing fee, will be able to help you get the documents you need.

As you hit the deadlines of storage – don’t forget to dispose of your paperwork carefully. Saving the planet by utilizing the recycling bin is all in good nature, but identity theft is real and has happened to 1 out of every 15 Americans. Consider investing in a home shredder that can be used on a daily basis. Alternatively there are often community shredding services multiple times a year when you can take boxes of paperwork to be safely shredded. For a fee, local office supply stores will also shred important documents.

As you reach to begin the record keeping process and shred those papers, remember InsureYouKnow.org product offerings may be your answer. It’s a safe place to digitally store all the information in case you need to access it remotely – or from the comforts of your own home. Taking stock of your records, memories and your current resources with an annual plan, may provide the peace of mind you’ve been looking for.

End-of-Life Planning: More Than a Will

June 12, 2018

As the saying goes, nothing is certain but death and taxes. Many of us, however, spend more time making sure everything is in order for the IRS than we do for our loved ones. And when we do take the time to create a will and discuss our burial preferences with our family members, we tend to stop there.

But there are so many more details involved in our deaths than who inherits our collection of first editions and where we want to be buried.

NPR’s “Weekend Edition” recently featured a story on Amy Pickard, whose mother died unexpectedly in 2012. As she handled her mother’s estate, Pickard was overwhelmed by all the questions she couldn’t answer, from what her mom’s smartphone passcode was to how to access her bank account.

“[I had to] become a detective basically,” Pickard told NPR.

Determining what bills needed to be paid and tracking down her mom’s car title would be difficult enough on a good day, but trying to piece together the puzzle of her mom’s life while grieving made things so much harder. It took Pickard two years to fully settle her mom’s affairs.

To help prevent others from going through the same difficult experience, Pickard founded Good to Go!, which offers private parties and consultations to guide individuals through their end-of-life paperwork. Based in Los Angeles, Pickard holds a party at her home once a month where people bring food that reminds them of a deceased loved one and complete a 50-page document she calls the Good to Go! Departure File. By incorporating a relaxed, fun approach that is filled with humor, Pickard makes the process less daunting and more manageable.

The Departure File includes a template for a living will, which addresses the medical care you’d like to receive in the event you are incapacitated and can’t communicate your own wishes, from the use of CPR if your heart stops beating to your preferences regarding organ donation. It also addresses minor but important details such as whether you’d want a TV on or music playing in your hospital room. In addition, the Departure File includes a booklet covering all sorts of information your loved ones will need after you die, such as:

• Contact information for friends and business associates
• Passwords for your email and social media accounts
• Plans for your pets
• Instructions for what to do with your photos, journals, and other personal items
• Obituary preferences (whether you want one and what photo you’d like used)
• The location of letters you’ve written to loved ones to be read after you’re gone

Whether you use Pickard’s Departure File (available for purchase on her website) or create your own document, storing all your data in one place is essential. InsureYouKnow.org is the perfect spot. Be sure to upload this document along with your last will and testament, life insurance policies, health insurance information, and other important files. Your loved ones will be going through enough when you die; don’t make them go through all these unanswered questions as well.